THE VILLAGE AND THE LADY SERIES II

MASTERING THE ART OF BEING A LADY

After conception, From the time the girl child is born,
She is molded to be as close to perfection as possible.

She is raised to be a Lady. She is taught to Sit Upright, she is taught to Walk Tall, and generally carry herself in Lady-like
fashion. She is taught by her mother, her aunts, her sisters, her friends and everyone
that cares, the proper things to do at the right time. ‘This isn’t Lady-Like’, they say. ‘You
ought to do it this way’, they insist.

‘A Lady doesn’t swing on poles’, they retort! Truth be
told, it takes time, effort and dedication to Lady a Lady.

‘Let me start by asking a question…’ If it takes a village to raise a child,
How many villages, Or rather what will it take to raise a Lady?

Lady DEFINED is Simply
A woman who is Refined, Polite, Cultured, and Well-spoken.

While a Village is DEFINED as a Small Community or group of houses in a rural area. In this Series lets do a Quick Recap on Tips that will assist you on become the Lady you were truly created to be. Finally, I will share with you the first Rule of being a Lady Unspoken Rules!
Let’s get started with a Quick Recap on MAGIC words to aid you on your journey to
BECOMING A LADY…

MAGIC WORDS

‘Saying Please’, ‘Saying Thank You’ and ‘Saying I am Sorry’ These are the Three magic words
every Lady needs. The simplest yet the hardest is ‘Please’ It means you’re polite and well
mannered. The next magic word is ‘Thank You’ It shows appreciation.
The most powerful is ‘I Am Sorry’ It takes the sting out of the hurt and paves way for
forgiveness.

LADY MOVES

LADY MOVES: Mastering the Art of Being a Lady. These are the basic simple moves that will up
your game as a Lady. They were previously taught in schools as etiquette classes long ago.
Remember, it’s something you practice every single day then over time you will perfect the Art
of Being a Lady.

BE GRACEFUL: Being graceful amongst ladies is gradually becoming a lost art. Ladies now pride
themselves with being harsh and telling it like it is! The title of the book why Men Love Bitches,
says it all. Ladies,Is this really all are all about? Is this who we really are, BITCHES? I think not, I
read somewhere recently that a graceful woman attracts attention and draws respect where
ever she goes. You don’t draw respect by being the, ”B” word. We need to retrace our steps. It
can be done. Proverbs 31 says it all. A graceful woman is always a Lady. Be graceful in your
mannerisms and watch how you will bloom ad flourish.

BE POLITE: Being rude is not lady like is any form or manner. There is no acceptable excuse to
be rude. Even in an argument you can choose to express your views without be-littling the
other party. Remember what was said about winning an agreement… for every single time you
win an argument, you might end up losing friend.

LEARN TO SMILE: The next step is to ‘Smile’…’When you smile you give yourself a face lift,
Without actually undergoing any surgery. You can always spot a Lady from afar.
How? Her smile certainly makes her stand out. A smile is one of the kindest gestures, it speaks
volumes, it says, I am happy. I Am approachable and warm. I Am a cheerful Lady. Smile, you will
realize it’s worth when you are older. Trust me on this.
These little tips will make the difference between the average girl down the street and the Lady
seated on a couch.

BE GENUINELY GOOD NATURED: A lot of crazy things happen every single day. I get shocked
every time I read the news headlines. Everyone in this fast paced world of ours is out to trying
to out-wit/out-smart the other person. It is difficult finding genuine people that are good on the
inside. Here’s a catch, if you can’t find one Be One. Be the person to give up your seat to that
elderly woman in the waiting room, be the one to show a sister her button is undone or she’s
got lipstick on her teeth, be the neighbor to check in when you hear the lady upstairs screaming
hysterically. Be the change you desire sister, teach the change you desire and soon enough the
world will gradually become a better place.

KEEPING THE FIRST UNSPOKEN RULE
This bring us to this…

The First Unspoken Rule to being a Lady is Silent and hardly ever talked
about. It is Always. Help. A. Sister. Out.

She may be young or older, colleague, stranger, friend, foe, family, it doesn’t matter.

Just help. I will share a personal experience with you.
Recently, I got back from work after a long day at the office to find my door was jammed. I tried everything I could but to my dismay I still couldn’t get into my apartment. I called everyone I could think of, some were stuck at work and other weren’t close by. In all I tried to keep a calm desposition though on the inside a million questions ran marathons in my head.

“What if I can’t get in?

Where will I pass the night?

How will go to work the next day?” I was distraught as I
thought about it all. I sat and gazed at my blossoming potted Sunflower plant sitted beside my Fully grown Aloe Vera plant on my balcony, as I racked my brain on what next to do. As I sat, trying hard not to cry, my Lovely neighbor in the next compound, I will call her Ama, for sake of privacy. Ama came out to gather her clothes. We are quite friendly usually our conversations go like this,

Me- Hey Neighbor?
Ama- Hey, You!
Me- How’s the week going?
Ama- Its going great. Yours? Are you seeing Big Brother? The Eviction Show is Up o.
Me- Gosh! True its today!

The banter may go on for some time but on that day when she came out and I told her my
door got jammed. In that instant, she swung into action! Got one her friends and they came over to get it fixed. Tears welled up in my eyes, she truly was the Good Neighbour. I was deeply touched. It was such a kind gesture. They fixed the lock finally.

I had thought chivalry was lost. There is still a shimmer of hope. Afterwards a few other friends and neighbors’ showed up and those that could not come all called in to check up on me. It was an experience I won’t forget in a hurry.

I want you reading this to be someone else’s knight, I want you to be the light at the end of a dark tunnel to someone. Can any harm come when you give help?

You might ask, what if the one you help is ungrateful. It hurts but help anyway!
You might also ask, what if the one you help ends up trying to take advantage of your good
will/nature? Do good anyway but also be smart about it.

Try not to put yourself in harms way. Be Vigilant!
You might ask, what if the one you help doesn’t not appreciate your effort? Or probably
repays you with bad?
The What ifs are endless. Just do what you can. Try to make LIFE simple for the next Sister. No!
Scratch that! Do the best you can and then some more.

‘If you can go the Extra Mile. Not only have you solved a problem, you have also sown Seeds of Good in your Life. They will germinate and do you a forest of good in due time. Believe Me.’

DAME

LET’S GET REAL…

Have you ever needed someone to talk to?

Have you ever muffled a scream? Have you ever felt so alone?

Have you ever been hurt so bad that you feel like taking the pain out on someone else? If you have had this roller coaster of emotions, then you are certainly not alone.

BREAKING TOXIC CYCLES

LEAN ON ME COUNSEL IS AVAILABLE!

You need to know today that, Hurting People, Hurt People!

Let’s break this Toxic Cycle today!
Yes, Ladies hurt? Yes. Strong Ladies get discouraged? Yes. Ladies cry?

Alone we might possess some strength but united with the right tribe! We are a Force. We are a MOVEMENT!
The Good Book says, ‘One will chase a thousand and two will chase ten thousand to flight.’ It
also says, ‘A Three-Fold cord cannot be easily broken.’ Please, we need to help one another, we
need to genuinely care. Many are growing Cold daily. They would rather sit and watch another go astray. Harsh Truth! We need to Choose our friend’s with Wisdom. We need to know ask for Divine Guidance in picking out friends.

Do you know there is a friend that sticks closer than a brethren? Have you read of David and Jonathan’s friendship? Where is your Elizabeth? Sisters we need to Walk in Divine Love.

Have you heard her Cries?
Don’t look the other way.
Don’t assume she can handle it.
Your neighbor’s wife screams amidst loud music every night and you are not bothered. You see
her with dark shades and bruises the next day and all you can say is ‘It’s her personal life, Its her
business!’ She turns up dead and you shed a few tears and write a beautiful dirge about her. This is grossly unacceptable! These lies and excuses we tell ourselves need to stop today. Let today mark the beginning of a New Era. Being your sister’s keeper means you being able to move mountains for her sake.

STAY WOKE SISTERS! WE NEED ALL HANDS ON DECK! THIS IS A CALL TO ACTION. LET US RISE TOGETHER AS WE TURN THE WORLD AROUND!

Let me end by asking you, a Key Question

‘If it takes a village to raise a child,
How many villages, Or rather what do you think it will it take to raise a Lady?’

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